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The power of belief is incredible! It can drive one person to build machines that take humankind to Mars while leading another to struggle in a cycle of hardship. What we believe about ourselves and our capabilities determines our experiences—not circumstances, other people, or even luck.

Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” The challenge is that we often don’t realize our beliefs are shaping our lives. We spend most of our time reacting to people and circumstances, unaware that these reactions are dictated by our underlying beliefs.

Every interaction we have is influenced by our beliefs. Even before we speak to someone, our brain retrieves memories related to that person. The closer we are to them, the more memories are activated. If these memories trigger fear, our body instinctively prepares to fight or flee. This process happens in seconds, beyond our conscious control. Our beliefs—shaped by past experiences with this person or even someone similar—then determine how the interaction unfolds.

But what if we could interrupt this cycle? Imagine being present in every situation with neutrality and openness. Picture standing before someone and seeing them for who they truly are, free from pre-judgments or expectations. Imagine seeing beyond their pain and conditioning to the core of their being.Simply having the desire to interact in this way opens the door to transformation. Next time you engage with someone, pay attention to your thoughts and emotions before, during, and after the interaction. Be curious, not judgmental. This practice will reveal the beliefs and assumptions you hold about them.

I’ve been surprised by how many grudges I’ve carried just to feel empowered in interactions. Letting go of these grudges has freed me to create the relationships I want, rather than repeating experiences rooted in resentment, anger, or powerlessness.

When we become aware of our internal narratives, we realize that the resentments we hold toward others often stem from our perceptions—formed by childhood experiences, trauma, conditioning, and self-worth struggles.

Through self-awareness, we gain the power to choose our reactions rather than being ruled by them. Over time, we can cultivate neutrality, which creates space for genuine connection and unconditional love.

Many of my clients struggle to experience success and joy as a natural part of life. At the core of this struggle is a common belief: that they don’t deserve it or haven’t earned it yet.

This is a sign of deep-seated feelings of unworthiness—as if they are simply not deserving of life’s best offerings. Some try to compensate by giving all their time and energy to serving others, whether through their families, clients, projects, or businesses.

I’ve tried all these approaches, and yet, it was never enough. No matter how much I did, I never felt truly worthy or valuable. It always felt like my worth was tied to my results—or more specifically, to other people’s approval of my results.

This way of living is exhausting. It never brings true satisfaction or a lasting sense of success. The frustrating part? It always seems like the goalposts keep moving. Just when I thought I was doing something valuable, someone would point out where I was still lacking.

There are two key parts to this struggle:

1. The belief in fundamental unworthiness.

2. The habit of letting others determine the success of our actions and efforts.

But here’s the truth: Your worth is intrinsic. It is not something you earn—it is something you already possess.

A simple way to understand this is to think of a small child. Picture a child you know, perhaps between the ages of 0-5. When we look at a child that young, their worth is never in question. We instinctively know they deserve love, joy, and everything life has to offer.

Now, imagine yourself at that age. Do you feel the same way about your younger self? Can you see the pure potential and light within that child?

If so, ask yourself: What changed?

Your body may have grown, and life may have added layers of expectations, conditioning, and self-doubt—but that light within you never disappeared. It may be buried under others’ expectations and past experiences, but it is still there.

When you start to detach yourself from the belief that you need validation, approval, or even love from others to be valuable, the sense of relief is immense.

Remember the child you once were—the version of you that was open, curious, and full of possibility. Even if you were shy or reserved, that behavior was something you learned as a way to gain approval. But underneath it all, there was always pure innocence and perfection.

And that child is still within you.

You are already whole, complete, perfect… and infinitely worthy.